Use Relativity to Find Your Place

A year ago, I made the decision to start writing publicly. I thought I was starting something special and I mean that in terms of uniqueness; as in doing something uncommon.

At the time, it was for me. I️ didn’t know anyone around me writing for recreation. None of my colleagues or friends had blogs. No one I️ knew personally wrote and published articles of any kind.

I️ saw writing as a great opportunity to set myself apart. I️ already enjoyed putting words together in my own time. It seemed like the right move to share my ideas with others and branch out into this “unknown” territory.

Started from the bottom

Due to my environment, I️ had a perception I️ was doing something few people tried. However, once I️ got going, that “pioneer” feeling wore off fast. I️ got a real taste of where I stood.

As I️ got involved in online communities and contributed on creative platforms, I realized I️ wasn’t alone in the slightest bit. Other people share my ideas and motivations. Thousands of people are trekking alongside me in my journey.

I️’m part of a crowd, not some anomaly. Of course, this meant good and bad things.

Yin and Yang

At first, it’s daunting to realize so many other people want to achieve the same as you. That means competition. That means it’s going to be difficult to differentiate yourself and break ground.

But, realizing this is also good. It humbles you.

You will never do anything and be the only one. The internet makes this very, very clear. Without a doubt, there are a group of individuals that are five, ten, a hundred steps ahead of you. Realize that now, because it will help you.

I️ am here

If you want to know where you stand, recognize the whole — realize the spectrum. This shows you when you’re actually making progress and doing the right things.

Extreme hypothetical:

Imagine a village of scrawny, frail men. Everyone is around 100 pounds with little to no muscle mass. This is the only body type they know. One man strives to be the biggest in town. He wants the fulfillment that comes along with being strong. He goes to work on his goal.

A year later, he’s done it.

He’s now a whopping 130 lbs. Compared to the others, he’s downright jacked. He thinks he’s reached the pinnacle of fitness. His progress stops and he remains where he’s at, assuming he’s reached his potential.

Okay, that’s a strange example. I️ came up with it on the fly. Do you see my point, though? The man has no relevance! He doesn’t truly know where he stands. He doesn’t realize he’s still small. He won’t know until he see’s the whole spectrum.

Know your place

When you enter yourself into a new space, try to accept the level you’re at. See yourself as a part of the whole, but know where you fit in.

Understand there are people ahead of you and some folks behind you.

Let your place motivate you. Use the experience of those before you to your advantage. Let your place show you there is more to gain up ahead.

Thanks for reading! This is day 8 of my 30 day writing challenge. (It’s getting easier)

Bored, uneducated, homeless — em dashes are my specialty. I write what I see, think, and feel. That’s it.

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Alec Zaffiro

Alec Zaffiro

Bored, uneducated, homeless — em dashes are my specialty. I write what I see, think, and feel. That’s it.

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